New Year’s Resolutions

So, today is the day after Christmas, and for those of us who celebrate it, we probably over ate, and are stuffed to the nines with sweets, turkey, and all of the amazing fixings.  Now, the day after, we feel bloated, and gross, and are bombarded with before and after pictures and overkill from the diet industry leading into the new year.  This may have some people wavering about their commitment to jump off of the diet train and stick with Health at Every Size. So here is my list of 10 better New Year’s Resolutions, than losing weight.

  

   1.Commit to doing activities that make you feel good 5 days a week.

Go ride a bike, play tennis, go for a walk, or just have a fucking living room dance party! Do these things because they feel good in your body and they are good for your body, not because you are trying to make your body something that it isn’t.

     2. Start living your life the way you planned to when you got thin! 

Instead of hiding in a shell and waiting for some arbitrary number to pop up on a scale to live your life the way that you want to, do it now! Always wanted to wear a bikini to the beach? Strap one on! Want to go to a bar and flirt your ass off? DO IT! Want to by that new outfit? Buy it now and  IN YOUR SIZE!

     3.Stop! Body shaming yourself. 

We’ve all been there, and I’m not going to lie to you, after all of these years, I still struggle with this sometimes. You get up in the morning, and your just not feeling it. You walk to the mirror and you start picking, you pick apart your body, your face, and your life. This year commit to stop! It’s like smoking, you just gotta quit cold turkey. Try that rubber band on this wrist thing that people are so fond of!

4. Be more spontaneous.

Sometimes, being a grown up, seems a lot like committing to be in a rut for your entire life. Break the cycle, and in 2013 try to be more spontaneous! Get in the car and just drive, let the GPS guide you back! Ask someone on a date. Go up and talk to a new person. Try a new restaurant. Doing new and spontaneous things can be exhilarating and boost your confidence!

5. Overcome something challenging.

My big challenge? Completing a Master’s degree. I wanted it so bad I could taste it. I wanted to give up many times along the way, but by god I finished it! What’s your challenge? What do you want to complete before the end of 2013? Make it happen!

6. Educate yourself.

2013 can be a year of learning for you. Despite what we may like to pretend, none of us knows everything. So this year, you can commit to learning about X# of new topics!

     7. Spend more time with the people you care about.

When people say life is short, they aren’t just kidding you. The older you get, the faster time seems to travel. When we get older, I assure we aren’t going to regret not accomplishing a purchasing order. We won’t be wishing we had just spend 5 more hours a week at work. And we sure as hell won’t be wishing we had spent a few more hours obsessing over our weight and body. We will wish we had more time with the people we loved. So, this year, don’t wait until it’s too late, do it now.

    8. Commit to a cause.

There is a lot of messed up stuff going on this world. There are people starving, children who can’t afford to go to school, LGBT people still can’t get equal rights, racism is rampant, everywhere you turn there is something going wrong! So, this year, commit all of the time that you used to spend obsessing over your body, dedicated to making the world a better place! Maybe  you don’t have the time to volunteer, whip out that wallet! Maybe you don’t have the cash, write your legislator. This year, do something to change the things you don’t like in our society, instead of on your body.

9. Reduce!

Forgive me, but I am going to get  preachy for just a second. We live in a consumer/throw away society. We do it with people and we do it with things. This year, make a commitment to stop doing it. Reduce the amount of things you have to throw away, instead choose recyclable materials when possible. Reduce the amount of animal products that you consume which are bad for your body (in excess), bad for the environment, and in the farm factory industry, bad for the animals. Reduce your buy in into mass consumerism, do you really need another Apple product? Finally, reduce the number of times that you throw people away because they don’t match up to your expectations. We are all just trying to get through this crazy messed up life and sometimes people need a little extra love and support.

Interested in reducing? Check out my friends blog about her minimalist journey (www.bornagainminimalist.com)

10. Be honest, be yourself. 

I saved this one for last, because it is also my New Year’s resolution. It’s easy to get caught up in the craziness of life. In a digital age, we are constantly aware of what we post on the web and how quickly information can be passed along. We have to be aware of not only what our friends and family may think, but what future employers may think of who we are and how we behave. It’s no surprise to me that we may all be a little guarded. My commitment this year, is a commitment to myself. I will be open and honest with myself, and the people around me.  I will let people in, and let them see who I really am and what I want out of my life. This year, I commit to tearing down the walls, that I have built to protect myself, and just live honestly, and happily. Maybe you’ll give it a try with me!

Now, these are just a few suggestions for resolutions that would be a better commitment than wasting time worrying about your weight. I’m sure you have got millions, and I would love to hear them. Leave your suggestions or personal resolutions in the comment section!

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Big Bodies In Motion

Okay, so you might have noticed that the official name of my blog is BigBodiesinMotion. I cam eup with this idea based on the stereotype that many people have of the fat community. Many people think that fat people sit on their butts eating bon bons and watching soaps all day. I know this stereotype is false, and I would like the opportunity to prove it. SO, I am going to be dedicating a page on this blog to Big Bodies in Motion. Here is the catch. I want all of you to email your pictures of examples of being fat and active to bigbodiesinmotion@yahoo.com! I will upload the pics as long as they are not vulgar or offensive! So let me see how you all love to be active!

Fat Fashion Woes

Throughout time curvy luscious bodies have been worshiped and adored for their beautiful lines. For many years the fashion industry took notice and designed beautiful outfits for women with a more abundant body type. But in the height of the  skinny revolution many plus size women find themselves in a fashion draught searching through piles and piles of tweety bird shirts and lycra pants for one cute piece to add to their wardrobe. So what’s a plus size girl to do?

There are stores like Lane Bryant and Torrid that are catering to women of size. They offer  many fashionable options, but for women living on a budget (which in this economy is everyone) these stores may be a little bit too pricey. Although TIP check out the clearance racks. Many ‘a’ time I have scored an adorable outfit for under ten bucks.

There are also many stores and botiques only that cater the fat and fabulous crowd, such as http://www.alight.com,  http://www.kiyonna.com/, http://www.igigi.com/, http://www.sizeappeal.com/, and many more.  Personally, I have trouble buying clothing that I don’t get to try on, but these are always options for the gal who can’t locate a plus-size botique near her.

So, what can we do to change this problem. I did something personally drastic for myself as an accessory lover. About a year ago, I started refusing to shop for anything in a store that doesn’t carry my size. Goodbye Chartlotte Ruse! I loved thee well. While sometimes its hard to pass things in the window, I feel better knowing that I dont’ support their sizist chain, and I suggest everyone start doing the same. We fatties spend money the same as skinny folk and if we pull out our funding of chains that won’t cater to us, especially in this economy they will feel the hurt. So, if you are looking for an easy way to get involved in the Fat Acceptance Movement, this is a great opportunity!